Family party that I have to go to. i don't really want to. I have lots of hmwk and plus, there will be guys there. I know it sounds childish, but hear me out.
They're like almost out of high school and look good.

Problem: I'm don't. I'm extremely self conscious about how I look, and I know that i look like a typical bookworm. Plain and average. I don't wear makeup, and I've tried, but i feel extremely fake when i do, so i don't. My clothes are plain and simple too

You know teenagers. They judge and stuff, and I really don't wan to be judged on appearance, which i know will happen.

I dont want to change or anything, but maybe just look a little healthier and active i guess.

Any tips? Makeup, confidence, losing weight or anything else? Please help.
lol I'm exactly 16

As a rule if you dress fake you will attract fake, if you be yourself you will attract someone who like you for who you are.

Ever noticed what hard work it is for people in Hollywood and how often they change relationships? That is because they are always changing to suit fashions and styles and to please others. It isn't a happy existence.

What is a happy existence is to know that another sees in you what you want them to see in you - reality.

But, if you want to do little things to make you feel better about who you are then start with small things like buying a nice bracelet or pair of earrings that match an outfit you already like and feel comfortable in.

Enhance who you already are, because you sound like an awesome person who is very down to earth.

ok well the key is confidence! when you are confident you will probably be less self conscious. If you want to lose weight you should eat a well balancd diet with lots of fruits and vegetables it is also very important to get enough exercise. You will feel great also. With the make up the key is to make it look natural so wear what you are comfortable wearing. Put your hair into a cute hairstyle.... something you wouldn't normally wear. And for the clothes..it doesn't really matter as long as you are confident wearing it! i hope i helped a little bit!

Stay with very light colors such as clear lip gloss or a nice pink, closest to the color of your lips. Lighter color eyeshadow if you feel, but stay away from blush (unless your skin is very pale).

If you want to change your outward appearance maybe you can go get your hair cut and colored. If you are able, maybe you can pick up a new pair of jeans, and a new shirt. Nothing too spectacular, just think out of the box. I know there are a lot of teenagers that wear those jeans that are a bit tighter, and maybe a form fitter shirt, if you arent sure what to do, head to the mall and ask a sales clerk. Their job is to sell you stuff so they want you to feel totally comfortable. Take someone with you who wont lie to you however on your appearance.

Above all else, go into the party knowing that you arent there to please anyone. As long as you are comfortable, just enjoy yourself. Anyone who doesnt like you for who you really are doesnt deserve to know you in the first place. Go in there with a big smile and be talkative (only in subjects you know about though- you dont want to come off as stupid if you answer something wrong). Most people take notice of those who are outgoing. You outward attitude comes out first so come out like a lion- not a stuck up person. Kepp your head up and maintain eye contact with people. If you notice a cute guy looking at you, well there is nothing wrong with talking. IF it persists, go up to him and introduce yourself. Who knows, he may be just as shy as you!

As far as looking healthier, maybe get a tan if your skin is a bit pale, get a shampoo that makes your hair shine, and eat healthier. If you dont feel good, you dont look good. Dont go overboard however. Stay true to you....

There will be guys there....so what.
I know where you are coming from, believe me. I used to feel just like you. I hated those family parties with older cousin and their guy friends there.

I would go. Take a chance. At least you'll have fun with your family. The holidays are the time to do so.

First of all, you don't have to wear gobs of makeup to look beautiful. I'm glad you know that. Keep it simple. I always have...and apparently years later I've grown into my awkward features. If you want, try a light colored or neutral eyeshadow and a clear or brown mascara. Powder of the right shade decreases shine. Add a bit of peachy pink blush and gloss and you're ready to go!

The secret is confidence! I know it's hard, but believe you are the girl they wanna see at this party.

It may sound silly, but treat yourself for the holidays to a elegant trendy necklace that goes with your favorite dressy outfit or find a new sweater to wear in your favorite color. Most put together outfits start simple and have pretty earrings and a necklace added, or colorful shoes. If you love your look, you'll feel confident.

You mentioned about something about being healthier/ more active. So I'm guessing you are not happy with your body type. Practically no one is...that's the odd thing.
But add in small steps if you'd like. Please don't diet or do anything drastic....an eating disorder becomes a lifetime battle with your self. Try drinking a couple of glasses of water instead of soda. Eat a healthy breakfast and healthy afterschool snack...these all can help you feel and look your best! As for exercise, get active. Find what you like, doing fast-paced walking laps around the mall with your best friend. Try soccer or jogging around your neighborhood (during the day) and working up to more. Or even stretches, tae-bo, ab workout, and pilates can be fun ways to get moving and tone your body!

Love yourself. You are beautiful. Smile genuinely and everyone else will see your beauty glow too!!!
Be YOU!
GOOD LUCK!

Hi. When is the party?

Here are some things you can do.

You say you don't wear makeup...that it feels fake. Have you gone to a makeup counter at a retailer to have them show you how to apply makeup? They can be very helpful. You don't need loads of stuff. What I usually wear is blush, some powder on my nose (cuz it's shiny), some mascara, and lipgloss or lipstick. You may want to stick with some lipgloss.

Just have someone help you and experiment yourself! Makeup isn't all that expensive. Buy some Cover Girl or Maybelline stuff.

Clothes: Is this a fancy party? Do you want a new dress? Or, simply wear a nice pair of pants with a pretty blouse or sweater. Get a new outfit!!

Hair: Maybe go to a salon and get a trim...or do something with your hair.

There are LOTS of ways to not look so plain. Maybe if you feel pretty about yourself....then who knows??? Maybe those cute guys will sit up and take notice!!!

Good luck!